people – Terpomuloj Tue, 11 May 2021 02:05:38 +0000 en-US hourly 1 people – Terpomuloj 32 32 5 shootings leave 2 dead, 5 injured in Philadelphia on Monday – NBC10 Philadelphia Tue, 11 May 2021 01:07:57 +0000

A day after 16 people were shot and four killed in Philadelphia, violence in the city continued with two people killed and five others injured in five separate shootings across the city on Monday afternoon into the evening.

The first shooting took place in the 3100 block of Jasper Street at 3:55 p.m. Monday. A 20-year-old man was shot in the chest while a 28-year-old man was shot in the left elbow and grazed his left hip. Both victims were taken to Temple University Hospital. The 20-year-old man was pronounced dead at 4:20 p.m., while the 28-year-old is in stable condition.

The second shooting took place in the 3400 block of North Howard Street at 4:56 pm A 72-year-old man was shot in the left cheek while a 45-year-old man was shot several times throughout his body .

The two victims were taken to hospital. The 72-year-old man is in critical but stable condition while the 45-year-old man is critical.

Shortly after 5 p.m., a 20-year-old man was shot in the face, chest and arm on North 29th and West Oakdale streets. He was taken to Temple University Hospital where he was pronounced dead at 5:22 p.m.

Shortly after 7:30 p.m., a 17-year-old boy was shot in the face in the 5000 block of Wade Street. He was taken to Einstein Medical Center where he is currently in critical condition.

Finally, a 31-year-old man was shot in the right knee on the 3800 block of Wyalusing Avenue at around 8 p.m. He was taken to Penn Presbyterian Hospital in stable condition.

No arrests were made and no weapons were found during these shootings.

The shootings follow a violent Mother’s Day in which a total of four people were killed and 16 shot dead.

As of Sunday’s end, there had been 183 homicides in Philadelphia, up 34% from the same period last year, which was one of the most violent years in the city’s recent history.

Last month, federal officials announced an “all-terrain” approach that would add resources to prosecute gun crimes. Former mayor Ed Rendell even floated the idea of ​​bringing police officers back to retirement.

Mayor Jim Kenney addressed the weekend violence in a statement Sunday.

“I am devastated by the indescribable violence that has occurred this weekend in our city,” Kenney wrote. “My thoughts are with the victims and their families at this tragic time, and I want all Philadelphians to know that our administration does not take this issue lightly. No priority is greater for us than reducing violence and creating a safer and more just city for all of us. “

Kenney recently proposed $ 18.7 million in additional funding for anti-violence initiatives for the city’s next fiscal year.

“Over five years, we plan to increase our investment in proven violence reduction strategies by $ 70 million,” he wrote.

More details on the city’s anti-violence plan can be found here.

There are additional resources for individuals or communities who have experienced gun violence in Philadelphia. More information can be found here.

GLAAD believes major social media are “categorically dangerous” for LGBTQ people Mon, 10 May 2021 01:31:35 +0000

Major social media sites – Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok and YouTube – are all “categorically dangerous” to LGBTQ people, according to a new study from GLAAD, the results of which were revealed on Sunday on “Axios on HBO.”

The big picture: GLAAD had planned to give each of the sites a rating as part of its first social media index, but chose not to give individual ratings this year after determining that all major sites would receive a fail rating.

  • “They are categorically dangerous, in every way,” said GLAAD President and CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. The findings follow a multi-month effort by GLAAD and a team of outside experts who reviewed each of the sites, their policies, and their track record of enforcing those policies.

Ellis said all of the sites advertise themselves as LGBTQ-friendly and nonetheless allow LGBTQ people to be harassed on a daily basis and allow harmful disinformation to spread unchecked.

  • “What shocked me the most about all of this is that at the end of the day these companies have the tools to stop it,” Ellis said.

Details: In the 50-page report, GLAAD offers a variety of recommendations for all platforms, in addition to service-specific suggestions. General recommendations include everything from changing algorithms to slow the spread of disinformation, hiring more human moderators, and better enforcing existing harassment and discrimination policies.

  • The report also gives a “boost” for various things that GLAAD says are positive steps, including Twitter’s rules against dehumanization, including intentionally flawed transgender people. Although not universally applied, it was a policy that GLAAD encouraged other platforms to adopt.

Between the lines: Ellis added that when it comes to harassment and discrimination, what happens online does not stay online.

  • “There are real consequences to what happens online,” Ellis said. “There are hotlines you can draw between the more than 100 anti-trans bills currently circulating in the state and what is produced and disseminated in the social media world.”
  • “I think there are hotlines, unfortunately, to suicides in our community.”

Yes, but: Ellis noted that the online world, including social media, can still be an important gathering place for LGBTQ people.

  • “There are bright spots, there are absolutely bright spots,” Ellis said. There are so many kids sharing their transition stories or there are so many people sharing their coming out stories. And I think that’s really important, that inspires other kids or other people to be their real, genuine me. … However, the challenge right now is for the negative to outweigh the positive. “

And after: GLAAD hopes to work with the sites over the next year and plans to issue notes for each next year.

“Our thinking on this is that now that we’ve given you what we think, what we think is an issue for our community, we’re going to hold you accountable,” Ellis said. And if you know anything about the LGBTQ community, we’ll hold you accountable and put our money where our mouth is. “

The other side: Here’s what each of the social media platforms had to say in response to the report.

  • Facebook / Instagram: “We strongly believe in the representation and visibility of the LGBTQ + community that GLAAD stands for,” CMO Alex Schultz said in a statement to Axios. “It’s hard to find the right balance between giving voice and taking action against harmful content. That’s why we partner with experts, nonprofits and other stakeholders – like GLAAD – to try to get it right.
  • Youtube: “Over the past few years, we have made significant progress in our ability to promptly remove hateful and harassing content against the LGBTQ + community that violates our policies, highlight content in search results and recommendations from authoritative sources and to limit the spread of extreme content contained by our recommendations, “the Google-owned video site said in a statement to Axios.” This work is in progress and we appreciate the thoughtful comments from GLAAD. “
  • Twitter: “We welcome GLAAD’s initiative and the opportunity to better understand the experiences and needs of LGBTQ + communities on our service, “Twitter said in a statement to Axios.” We have engaged with GLAAD to better understand their demands and we are engaging in open dialogue to better inform our work to support LGBTQ safety. “
  • TIC Tac: “TikTok is committed to supporting and raising LGBTQ + voices on and off the platform and we care deeply about fostering a welcoming and supportive experience for all,” TikTok said in a statement to Axios. and will continue to work with GLAAD and other LGBTQ + organizations to help inform and strengthen our work. “

Go further: GLAAD’s plan to assess social media for safety

Blind advocates of slam society claim to make websites ADA compliant Sun, 09 May 2021 10:00:08 +0000

Throughout the pandemic, as blind people, like everyone else, have become increasingly dependent on websites to purchase products, one of the fastest growing companies working with clients like that Oreo cookies and Energizer batteries to make their websites more accessible has been swallowed up more and more. contentious relationship with the blind. Many blind people say his product makes it harder for them to browse the web.

In recent months, blind people and disability advocates have spoken out on social media and sued companies that use AccessiBe. The blind say that AccessiBe, which is supposed to automatically make websites more compatible with the screen readers that blind people rely on to access the internet, has prevented them from all kinds of normal online activities, like paying rent, teach a class or buy Christmas presents.

AccessiBe is the largest automated accessibility company in the market, according to Lucy Greco, blind and web accessibility manager at the University of California, Berkeley.

The situation has deteriorated to such an extent that in the past two months more than 400 blind people, accessibility advocates and software developers signed an open letter call on companies that use automated services, like AccessiBe and other companies with similar products, to stop.

“We will refuse to remain silent when sellers of overlays use deception to market their products,” the letter said.

AccessiBe markets itself on its website as a $ 49-per-month tool that helps businesses protect themselves from violating U.S. disability law by adding a single line of code to a website’s backend. AccessiBe also offers support for sued websites and claims to bring them into compliance.

The company boasts that more than 132,000 websites use its product, including well-known brands such as Pillsbury, Benadryl, Playmobil and the Los Angeles Lakers, as well as certain government agencies, such as the Louisiana Department of Health and the state department of public security and corrections. . In February, AccessiBe announced it received $ 28 million in funding from a private equity firm called K1 Investment Management.

While the company has celebrated its growth and funding in press releases and blog posts, many blind people and disability advocates on social media say they’ve run into problems trying to use sites that have AccessiBe installed. They say that when they visit these sites, it can prevent screen readers – who read aloud what is on websites, including image descriptions, menus, and buttons – from reading properly. pages and making certain websites they previously used non-navigable.

“If a consumer is having difficulty or issues with these sites, the site owner may say, ‘Hey, we are following accessibility guidelines. So you have no “cases” to continue, said Steve Clower, a blind software developer specializing in accessibility.

After Clower’s apartment rent payment website adopted AccessiBe last summer, he said his screen reader compatibility was so messed up he had to ask a friend about the help write her rent check that month. The experience was so frustrating that Clower published a guide to block AccessiBe which he named “AccessiBe Gone”.

“We understand that there can be a learning curve for users,” Roy Gefen, director of marketing at AcessiBe, said in a statement, adding that misunderstandings about how AccessiBe works have confused some users. The company has also created a dedicated team to receive customer feedback, he said.

But when blind users have highlighted these issues in detailed blog posts, YouTube videos, and on social media, some say the company has called their reviews “unfriendly” and has often called in those who have raised concerns. publicly in closed-door meetings with the company’s CEO, Shir Ekerling.

In an email to NBC News, Ekerling said those who criticize the company online are largely agitated by “thought leaders” who are rallying the blind in a “broad campaign” against the company with little. specific criticisms.

“Almost no one gives details of actual websites that really don’t work for them,” Ekerling wrote in an email. “It’s because they don’t really test us, or really use us. At most, they went to a website out of anger and didn’t even try to figure it out.”

Gefen said he believed that some setback was expected for new technologies with new ways of doing things, “especially from industry professionals who are in direct competition with AccessiBe.

AccessiBe is not the only product that claims to provide an automated and fast solution to bring websites up to accessibility standards.

Greco, of the University of California at Berkeley, said other companies have similar products that have many of the same technical issues as AccessiBe. But AccessiBe sets itself apart with its rapid growth, intense marketing, and defensive style of engagement with blind people who claim it didn’t work for them.

“I think the thing that mostly got people on edge is that the marketing makes us bad guys instead of users who want to use the services of a website,” Greco said.

Federal lawsuits claiming websites are not ADA compliant rose 12% last year, according to an analysis on the Seyfarth ADA Title III News and Insights Blog by lawyers specializing in disability compliance. Thousands of lawsuits are filed each year claiming websites cannot be accessed, and AccessiBe has said its product is a way to protect businesses from litigation.

“Accessibility is really about inclusion or exclusion. If you have a website, do you want to include people with disabilities or do you want to exclude them? That’s why it’s a civil right, ”said Lainey Feingold, a civil rights attorney who has worked on digital accessibility since the mid-1990s, including the early American colonies that got people talking. ATMs and audible pedestrian signals. “The whole idea of ​​the rights of people with disabilities is about the participation of people with disabilities in society, and in 2021, without digital accessibility, this participation is impossible.”

Avoid prosecution

AccessiBe has been cited in at least two recent lawsuits by people claiming websites are not ADA compliant, including a case against an eyewear company named Eyebobs.

In this case, the plaintiff used the testimony of Karl Groves, an accessibility auditor, software developer and expert witness in the case. He analyzed 50 websites who use AccessiBe and have testified that they have found thousands of issues with the sites that could interfere with their compatibility with screen readers. This lawsuit was referred to mediation last month. Court records show that the company has denied any transgression.

The other case, which involved Masterbuilt Manufacturing, a grill company, was settled, followed by a voluntary dismissal in March, court records show.

Ekerling, the CEO, said in an email that he works weekly with companies dealing with accessibility legal issues to help them comply. AccessiBe denies that Eyebobs and Masterbuilt Manufacturing were using its product at the times identified in the lawsuits.

The company’s oversight that it provides web accessibility to avoid legal action has not helped its relationship with people who are blind.

“It capitalizes on this fear that people with disabilities are there to sue you and make your life difficult,” said Holly Scott-Gardner, a blind person and disability rights advocate who has expressed concerns on Twitter and on his blog on how AccessiBe didn’t. works for her. “It reinforces this really horrific view of people with disabilities that we’re literally here to get money and we’re just using our disabilities for it.”

Chancey Fleet, a tech educator and vice president of the National Federation of the Blind in New York who is blind, was invited to a private meeting with AccessiBe executives in February after tweeting concerns about the product.

In the leaked audio of the meeting obtained by NBC News, Ekerling said disability advocates and his company share a common goal of making the web more accessible and that voicing concerns about the functionality of AccessiBe was a “demonization” of the company.

Type of heart attack differs in people living with HIV: link to drug use and sepsis in young people Tue, 27 Apr 2021 06:00:35 +0000

Sepsis and the use of stimulant drugs are important causes of heart attacks in people living with HIV according to a US study published in the Journal of Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndromes. Heart attacks with such causes, rather than attacks caused by hardening of the arteries, predominated in young people living with HIV who had a heart attack.

But the study also showed that even younger people living with HIV had heart attacks due to arterial disease and that there were high rates of heart attacks due to sepsis / drug use and to hardening in the elderly.

Dr. Heidi Crane of the University of Washington, Seattle, and co-investigators conducted the research.



Sepsis is a life-threatening disease caused by the body’s response to infection. The body normally releases chemicals into the bloodstream to fight infection. Sepsis occurs when the body’s response to these chemicals is out of balance, triggering changes that can damage multiple organ systems. Also known as sepsis.


In one study, “100 person-years of follow-up” could mean that information was collected on 100 people for one year, or on 50 people for two years each, or on ten people over ten years. In practice, the duration of each person’s follow-up is likely to be different.


A waxy substance, primarily made by the body and used to produce steroid hormones. High levels can be associated with atherosclerosis. There are two main types of cholesterol: low density lipoprotein (LDL) or “ bad ” cholesterol (which can put people at risk for heart disease and other serious conditions), and high density lipoproteins ( HDL) or “ good ” cholesterol (which helps get rid of LDL).

myocardial infarction

Heart attack. The myocardium refers to the muscle tissue of the heart. A heart attack is the obstruction of the blood supply to an organ or region of tissue.


Abbreviation for people living with HIV.

The results of the study are important because heart disease is an increasingly important cause of serious illness and death in people living with HIV. In addition, there are several types of heart attacks, each with different underlying causes. Treatment strategies depend on the type of heart attack.

Type 1 heart attacks are caused by arterial disease, particularly the buildup of cholesterol-related deposits or plaques in the arteries. The instability of these plaques can cause arterial blockages, obstructing the blood supply to the heart, resulting in a heart attack.

In contrast, the causes of type 2 heart attack include sepsis (a severe reaction to an infection), cocaine use, and hypoxia (low levels of oxygen).

Risk factors for both types of heart attack are common in people with HIV. Lifestyle factors such as diet and the use of certain antiretroviral drugs can cause cholesterol to rise. But recreational drug use rates are also high among people living with HIV, and the use of unsterile injecting equipment increases the risk of infections.

In the general population, type 1 heart attacks predominate. But Dr. Crane’s research team has already shown that people with HIV have a different heart attack profile, with about half of the attacks classified as type 2. They found that there is a greater risk of death after a type 2 heart attack.

They wanted to dig deeper into this research and see if the type of heart attack in people living with HIV differed by age. They hypothesized that the causes associated with type 2 heart attack would mean that it is predominant in young people. But investigators also hypothesized that type 1 heart attacks would also occur in young PLHIV at a measurable rate.

Their research involved adults who received specialized HIV care in six US cities between 2000 and 2019. Potential heart attacks have been identified from medical records. Two doctors looked at each case to determine the type of heart attack. The incidence of each type was calculated as a function of age (in decades).

The total study population consisted of 28,741 PLHIV. Of these, 875 had a heart attack. Their median age was 51, 79% were men, 50% were African Americans, and 79% were on ART. The median CD4 cell count at the time of the heart attack was 355.

Just over half (53%) of heart attacks were type 1, the remaining 47% were type 2 events.

People with a type 1 heart attack were more likely than those with a type 2 event to be aged 40 and over, male (85% vs. 72%), Caucasian (49% vs. 26%, on statins (49% vs. 25%), on ART (84% vs. 72%) and have higher total and LDL (or “bad”) cholesterol levels. The mean CD4 cell count also differed depending on the type of myocardial infarction (type 1, 423 vs type 2, 253).

Type 1 attacks have occurred in people living with HIV of all ages, including those under 30 (one event in 2,254 people, rate 0.31 per 1,000 person-years). Their frequency increased with age, with the incidence in people aged 70 and over reaching 9 cases per 1000 person-years of follow-up.

Type 2 events were observed in all age groups (five events in those under 30, rate 1.31 per 1000 person-years) and their frequency also increased with age (five events among the 573 people aged 70 and over, incidence 8.88 per 1000 person-years).

However, type 1 events were more common than type 2 events in people aged 50 to 69 years, while type 2 events were more common in those under 40 years old. 2 in those under 30 was significantly higher (IRR = 10.0; 95% CI, 2.43-88.24, p <0.001).

Common causes of type 2 events were sepsis (36%), use of cocaine or other stimulant drugs (11%), and respiratory failure (10%).

“These results show that type 1 myocardial infarction and type 2 myocardial infarction represent distinct clinical entities and require different prevention and treatment approaches,” commented the authors. “One of the main conclusions of this study is that people living with HIV with type 2 myocardial infarction were younger than those with type 1 myocardial infarction.”

“Common causes of type 2 events were sepsis, use of cocaine or other stimulant drugs, and respiratory failure.”

They note that this contrasts with the general population where type 2 events are rare and usually occur in the elderly. Dr Crane and colleagues suggest this discrepancy was likely due to the high frequency of sepsis-related heart attacks they observed. In the general population, this accounts for 10% of type 2 events, but among people living with HIV, it was the most common risk factor for a heart attack of this type, present in 27% to 50% of individuals (according to age).

“We have found that among people living with HIV, type 1 myocardial infarction occurs in adults of all ages. Type 2 myocardial infarctions accounted for almost half of all myocardial infarctions… and occurred at a higher rate… until the age of 40, ”the investigators conclude. “A better understanding of these important comorbidities, who is affected, when and why, is needed to better understand the underlying mechanisms and intervene successfully to improve the long-term outcomes of older PLHIV as the population of care continues. to grow old.

John Travolta’s Fairy Tale Dance with Princess Diana | People Thu, 22 Apr 2021 09:18:38 +0000

John Travolta says dancing with the late Princess Diana was like a “fairy tale”.

The “Grease” star met the late Princess of Wales at a White House party in 1985 and he admitted it was “a great privilege and honor” to be able to dance with her at the party.

He said: “I didn’t think they would ask me to dance with her. I had the great privilege and honor to do it, and I thought, ‘There must be a reason for doing this. and I’d better give it my all. “. It meant leading the dance right and making sure we had fun. It was the easy part, but just greeting Diana appropriately, being confident and asking her to dance was a complicated task. “

And John went to explain how it was “a very special magical moment”.

He added to Esquire Mexico magazine: “Think about the decor. We were at the White House. It’s midnight. The scene is like a dream. I walk over to her, touch her elbow, invite her to dance. She turns around and gives me that. Captivating smile, just a little sad, and accepts my invitation. And we were there, dancing together like it was a fairy tale. Who could imagine that something like this would ever happen to them. ? I was smart enough to mark it in my memory as a very special magical moment. “

John is best known for her role in “Grease” alongside Olivia Newton-John and she previously confessed that she felt “nervous” before her first on-screen kiss with the actor.

Chrissy Teigen Therapy Discussions | People Thu, 22 Apr 2021 09:00:00 +0000

Chrissy Teigen has opened up about the leaked unedited photos of Khloé Kardashian with her therapist.

The Sports Illustrated model admitted she felt “frustrated” after the Keeping Up With the Kardashians star attempted to have the photo taken because she wanted Khloé to be “proud” of the photo, but she also understands that Khloé is allowed to do this. want the photo to be private too.

She said, “Honestly I went like a million different ways with this and ended up talking about it in therapy, oddly enough … You’re frustrated because I’m looking at Khloé and I’m like, ‘Sure. , you ‘you are so beautiful, you are so strong. The changes she made to her body that she is so proud of and everyone is so proud of. You want someone to be like “F ** * yes, this is my body “from any angle. If she didn’t want this photo to be taken out, she didn’t want this photo to be out. And that’s okay too. There can be two truths . “

However, if Chrissy had been through the same thing, she insists that she would be happy to show off her body if it helps others feel better about their own figure.

Speaking on Watch What Happens Live, she added, “I would like people to know that this is a strong and powerful photo of myself and I’m proud of it. And to show my body in any way I can to. make others feel better about themselves. “

People complain 15 to 20 times a day: 5 ways to quit Thu, 22 Apr 2021 08:00:00 +0000

April 22, 2021

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This article was translated from our Spanish edition using AI technologies. Errors may exist due to this process.

Opinions expressed by Contractor the contributors are theirs.

Average people complain 15 to 20 times a day. Of course, there are those who have the record of being permanently in this attitude that leads nowhere. Because the whine is like a rocking chair: it entertains, even if you are not moving from where you are.

In the book ” Stop grumbling!Coach and speaker Christine Lewicki says that while situations arise where people can find a good reason to complain, there are other strategies for constructively expressing what they think is wrong.

If you live in this state all the time, you are going to suffer because not only are you not going to move forward or solve the problems, but it is a boomerang that turns on you.

The consequences of complaining about everything


The complaint has multiple negative effects on people, including:

  • The deterioration of relationships. Mirror neurons are affected in the brain, thus negatively influencing everyone around you. As a source of empathy, these neural connections are contagious and so the complaint spreads like a shock wave and directly affects your surroundings.
  • A dependency is generated. Complaining, which people often interpret as a release from their frustrations, creates a pattern of addiction, burnout and unease. Therefore, if you tend to complain a lot, avoid it by not doing it: it is, even though there are strategies like I share below. In the brain, behaviors are reinforced by practice. To be able to control the impulses that complain, you must overcome the temptation to fall into them. Conversely, the more you complain, the more you complain: it becomes a vicious circle. So, if you want to play in your favor, you complain less, stay silent or look for solutions.
  • Complaining colors all that is good in your life. The familiar concept of only seeing the glass half empty all the time makes you not appreciate the positive that is always there, because you have trained the brain to give the first impulse to complain. In this way, your gaze is always black, colored by filters in your mental model which do not allow you to take advantage.
  • It hurts the brain. In an investigation conducted by Stanford University in the United States, they concluded that complaining had an effect in reducing the size of the cerebral hippocampus, a useful area that is responsible for reasoning and helping to resolve. the challenges of life. By having a negative mental program of complaining, this “road” always takes you down the same path, the hippocampus atrophies, and over time it stops producing more results in the form of alternatives and solutions. .
  • It makes you a bitter person and it makes you sick. In addition to anything related to links, the complaint releases cortisol, which is the stress hormone and weakens the immune system, making you prone to certain diseases such as heart, gastrointestinal tract, diabetes and hypercholesterolemia.

It is important to remember that this is not about canceling all kinds of complaints, because some, if properly channeled, can be necessary and useful in building solutions. The goal is to change the automatic complaint that many people have as a regular form of communication.

5 ideas to stop complaining

1. Focus on the solution, always

Just as you predisposed your mind to mold it into a complaint pattern, it is possible to reverse it.

A common tendency of people who live to complain is that this behavior, sustained over time, causes them to have catastrophic or terrible thoughts. It is not even trivial when the expression of complaint appears to be a mere observation, as this dynamic contains judgments, assumptions and reservations about the issues. If we add the tone of expression and altered emotionality to varying degrees, we have a pure complaint.

The tool to change that perspective is to focus on the solution. With mental training, the urge to complain can be controlled; once you get used to figuring out how to resolve issues, the complaint will decrease.

2. Suggest alternative scenarios

For people who find it difficult to immediately focus on finding a solution, the idea is that once the reason for the complaint has been identified, possible alternatives are brought up in their minds. This means that, knowing the weight and the consequences of living complaining, it is best to start looking for other ways to replace it.

Questions can be very helpful: What am I complaining about? What is the underlying reason for my complaint? What is the use of complaining? What alternatives do I have? How am I going to feel if I don’t complain? This way you will find more sense to channel a new form of behavior.

3. Check reverse processes based on the reason for your complaint

This tool proposes to stop any type of reflection that feeds the complaint. The first step is to brake; Coach Tim Gallwey’s STOP technique can help you (S = Stop, T = Think / Think, O = Observe, P = Proceed / Act).

Once the tendency to complain has ceased, check out what would happen if things were not as you think or imagine; It is a technique for “counter-arguing” in the mental model that you have, so that you can verify what would happen in a different diagram. By pushing this to a deeper level of analysis, the wailing impulse will take a back seat. By practicing it continuously, it is possible to reduce and even eliminate the behavior of the complaint.

4. Ask yourself, “What do I get when I complain?”

People do everything to make a profit; Even if you don’t have it, it can seemingly be of benefit to you. This is why it is a question of playing in your favor.

This exercise is about self-awareness and redirecting one harmful behavior to another that presents you with different perspectives focused on promoting changes or solutions.

To exercise, you need a notebook and a pencil; then openly ask yourself what you gain when you complain, and immediately start making a comprehensive list of all the details of the complaint that come from your inner voice or your words. Go through the process as deeply as you want. You will then put that list aside for at least an hour and reread it to see if your profit motives are still “true” when you complain.

5. Work towards accepting what you cannot change and change what is within your reach.

“Everything that we do not accept is the basis of suffering”, says Colombian philosopher Gerardo Schmedling. Therefore, in situations that you cannot change and any kind of positive intervention is not within your reach, it is necessary to practice unconditional acceptance.

To accept does not mean to accept or justify the facts; On the contrary, when they are totally beyond your will and control, the alternative of accepting them and letting go is reasonable. If you don’t and make it a permanent complaint, this litany is like having a hot coal in your hand to throw at others: you will burn yourself. It costs you dearly.

Remember that in all circumstances we have the opportunity to choose the attitude with which we are going to face things. Leaving the complaint involves a radical change in that aspect, to start having a less confrontational, more harmonious life that adds value for you and for all the areas in which you operate.

Climate change can influence people’s decisions about whether to have children Thu, 22 Apr 2021 06:20:00 +0000

When deciding to have children, many factors must be taken into account: finances, support systems, personal values. For an increasing number of people, climate change is also added to the list of considerations, says a researcher at the University of Arizona.

Sabrina Helm, associate professor in the Norton School of Family and Consumer Sciences at the College of Agriculture and Life Sciences, is the lead author of a new peer-reviewed study that examines how climate change affects people’s decisions about opportunity to have children.

For many people, the question of whether or not to have children is one of the most important they will face in their lives. If you are worried about what the future will look like because of climate change, it will obviously have an impact on how you view this very important decision in your life. “

Sabrina Helm, Associate Professor, Norton School of Family and Consumer Sciences, College of Agriculture and Life Sciences

Helm and his collaborators wanted to better understand the specific reasons related to climate change why people do not want to have children. They began by analyzing online comments posted in response to news articles written about the growing tendency of people to forgo childbearing due to concerns about climate change.

They then looked for adults between the ages of 18 and 35 who said climate change plays an important role in their reproductive decision-making. They interviewed 24 participants about their concerns.

The researchers’ results, published in the journal Population and environment, identify three major themes that emerged both in the online comments and in the interviews.

1) Overconsumption. This was the concern most frequently expressed by those interviewed, Helm said. Almost all of the participants expressed concern about how children would contribute to climate change through an increased carbon footprint and overuse of resources that may become more scarce in the future, such as food and water.

2) Overpopulation. Overcrowding was the dominant concern among online commentators, and it was brought up often in interviews as well, Helm said. Some participants said they thought having more than two children would be problematic and even selfish, as they would “replace” themselves and their partner. Some said they saw adoption as a more responsible choice. “Adoption was seen as the low carbon alternative,” Helm said.

3) An uncertain future. Interviewees and online commentators also often expressed a sense of unhappiness about the future if climate change continues unchecked. Many said they would feel guilty or as if they were doing something morally or ethically wrong if they brought a child into a world with such an uncertain future.

As the prospect of “doom” prevailed, it was also offset by expressions of hope, Helm said. Some interviewees and commentators said that the very idea of ​​children gives hope for a better and brighter future. Others expressed hope that future generations could help improve the environment by increasing awareness and action on climate change.

“There was hope that future generations will get the job done and make things better,” Helm said. “But that puts a lot of burden on little children.”

Understanding how climate change affects reproductive decision-making is part of a larger effort by Helm and other researchers to understand how climate change affects individuals mentally and emotionally in general. Helm noted that anxiety about climate change is on the rise, especially among young people.

“Many people today are seriously affected in terms of mental health when it comes to climate change issues,” she said. “Then you add this very important decision about having children, which very few people take lightly, and it’s an important topic from a public health perspective. . “

Helm said many study participants expressed anger and frustration that their concerns are not taken seriously by family members and friends, who might disdainfully tell them that they will change. opinions on having children when they are older or meeting the right person.

“It’s still a little taboo to talk about this – their worry – in an environment where there are still people who deny climate change,” Helm said. “I think what was missing was the ability to talk about it and hear the voices of others. Maybe this research will help.”


Journal reference:

Helm, S., et al. (2021) No future, no children – no children, no future ?. Population and environment.

Teaching young people about sex is too important to be wrong. Here are 5 videos that really struck you Thu, 22 Apr 2021 06:08:15 +0000

Two videos were pulled this week from the Australian government recently published sex education resource for schools.

The government published the Good Society resource in mid-April, which consists of over 350 materials including videos, digital stories and podcasts to teach respectful relationships in schools. The two deleted videos were widely criticized by politicians, sex educators and sexual assault support groups for missing the target of sex education.

One clip, showing a couple on a movie set that looks like a retro dinner party, aims to teach consent through the metaphor of a milkshake. After a young man rejects a young woman’s milkshake, she smears the milkshake on his face, saying the phrase “Drink it all!”

The scene is followed by somewhat confusing diagrams of a soccer field with a voiceover explaining ideas about shared decision making.

I am a visual culture researcher interested in how information about sexuality and relationships can be effectively communicated to young people. I have compiled several examples of sex education videos that better meet the needs of young people.

What works in sex education?

The milkshake metaphor in the Good Society video is confusing because it is meant to teach sexual consent, but never mentions sex. It also does not explain what the metaphor represents.

Young people already see an explicit and distorted portrayal of sex in pornography. Usually boys start to watch around the age of 13 and girls around the age of 16. Thus, it seems outdated to produce sex education resources that do not directly talk about sex.

Research shows that plain language is best for teaching young people about sexuality and relationships.

The Good Society resource attempts to use humor to engage audiences. Studies show humor can be an effective strategy in public health campaigns. however, sustainable behavior change is based on easy-to-understand messages, a feeling that the information is personally relevant to the target audience, and a sense of self-efficacy (the individual knowing how to act on the information they see).

Read more: Not only are some of the government consent videos weird and confusing, but many reinforce damaging gender stereotypes

Because the Good Society resource was confusing, the humor was also confusing. And the video failed to create a clear sense of personal relevance and self-efficacy.

Here are the videos that work best.

Australia – rhinos and astronauts

The Practical Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships was developed by expert sex education researchers at the Australian Center for Sex, Health and Society Research (ARCSHS) at La Trobe University.

The resource includes a series of humorous yet straightforward animated videos dealing with sex, pornography, relationships, consent and gender.

A video for grade 9 and 10 students illustrates sexual desire and consent using a couple of astronauts and then a couple of pirates.

While these depictions may seem as confusing as the milkshake metaphor, the metaphors in these videos are clearly explained. And the use of familiar language gives a sense of relevance. The narrators of the videos speak directly to young people:

“You’re 14, 15, 16… there’s a lot of shit going on,” says one narrator.

“It looks like electricity,” says a male narrator when lightning bolts are fired at a boy’s head.

“It’s a metaphor for everything that’s going on,” replies the narrator.

This video uses plenty of metaphors such as a roller coaster, astronauts, and even a hilarious parody of John Travolta trying to grope Olivia Newton-John to discuss relationships and consent.

The designs are informal and attractive, unlike the soccer field diagrams used in The Good Society resource.

The video ends with a series of questions teens can ask themselves to assess whether they feel comfortable in a situation. Clear advice helps create a sense of self-efficacy.

Read more: Not as simple as ‘no means no’: what young people need to know about consent

Another video, with the same two narrators, discusses the stereotypes that women and men have to struggle with. He uses a rhino as a metaphor for sexual desire, with a man and a woman at the top.

The male voice says, “I’m the guy, I’m supposed to be ‘oh yeah, can’t wait to put his pants on.'”

Then the female voice says, “And I’m the girl, I’m supposed to be ‘uh, I don’t know, uh, I’m not sure uh…'”

A rhino is a metaphor for sexual desire, but the narrators recognize this and make it a bit of a joke.

Explicit caricature of Sweden

Scandinavia is known to be at the forefront of progressive sex education. the low rates of teenage pregnancy in Scandinavian countries (Norway and the Netherlands have some of the lowest teenage rates in the world and Sweden is about a quarter of that of Britain) are regularly touted as proof of its effectiveness.

In Sweden, a animated video produced by the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education follows four teenagers receiving an unexpected lesson from a substitute teacher.

As they ask the teacher questions, many topics are covered, from the appearance of genitals to respect in relationships and STDs.

The Swedish video covers many topics related to sex, from the appearance of genitals to the discomfort of putting on condoms.
Screenshot of the Sex on the Map video

The animation includes a scene where two of the students try to have sex, but struggle with condoms and nerves. The scene feels very real and would be relevant to the experience of many teens.

Gay and lesbian storylines are incorporated into the narrative, making them relevant to a diverse audience. The fact that the story is animated allows for more explanation, without going into the realm of pornography.

The video is subject to an age limit, but can be viewed on YouTube.

New Zealand Pornstars

Although not part of a school education program, the New Zealand government campaign, Keep it real online, aims to help parents navigate digital security. A video shown on television is a good example of how humor can be used effectively to tackle sensitive topics.

In the clip, two pornstars visit a mother, saying her son is watching them on every device possible. What makes the video great is its ability to be funny and engaging. And at the same time, it allows the viewer to identify with the shocked boy, who is told pornstars would never act like this in real life, and with the mother, who realizes that he is. time to have a frank conversation with her son about sex.

Read more: Sex education can counter what kids learn from porn, but some teachers fear backlash when tackling ‘risky’ topics

The humor is disarming, but the lesson is clear: Porn is scripted and performed by actors, and shouldn’t be seen as real life.

This hilarious video uses disarming humor to get its point across.

And then there’s the cup of tea

And finally, there’s the well-known video that explains consent through the metaphor of offering someone a cup of tea. Again, this clearly identifies the metaphor at the start and goes through the idea of ​​asking someone to have sex, but instead replacing sex with tea. If you ask someone if they want a cup of tea and they don’t know if they do, the video is for you

you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – and this is the important part – don’t make them drink it.

This well-known video explains consent through a relatable metaphor of a cup of tea.

It is essential that sex education be suitable for adolescents who must not only navigate sexuality and relationships, but also deal with the proliferation of pornography and technology.

If we are to teach teens about sexual consent, we will have to talk about sex and not milkshakes.

Learn more: Young people crave a good sex education. I found a program in Mexico that works fine

Retired black officer denounces left-wing ‘lies’ about police: ‘it hurts blacks’ Thu, 22 Apr 2021 05:18:54 +0000

Retired Tucson, Ariz. Police officer Brandon Tatum joined “The Ingraham Angle” on Wednesday and criticized Benjamin Crump, LeBron James and liberal politicians who he says are pushing dangerous and false rhetoric that law enforcement agencies are racist.

TATUM: “They should be ashamed to come out lying about this cop and lying about this girl (Ma’Khia Bryant). This girl had a knife in her hand and she was about to stab another black girl in the face. was not just swinging a knife, she was going to stab the girl in the face and she was shot dead. Officers have every right to use deadly force against another person to protect another person’s life.

LAURA INGRAHAM, HOST: These people want there to be hatred and evil in our country and they want the police to be demonized. They want the police and the public to have conflict [so] they can continue to get better grades. They can continue to be re-elected, continue to promise to the public [policies] they can never keep their promises.

TATUM: They almost seem disappointed, don’t they, when the facts don’t exactly match an easier narrative to perhaps slander the police, whether it’s the color of the skin of those involved or whether there is had a weapon involved.

They usually have a meltdown or they completely lie about it because it makes them sound like hypocrites.

I’m really sick of listening to these people on TV without any responsibility. They lie outright and fuel violence in our communities.

It doesn’t hurt whites. It makes other black people more violent [and] feel that their life is in danger by the police. They will eventually get injured and eventually die and not have patrols in their communities, which makes their communities more violent. It doesn’t hurt whites. It hurts black people and is perpetuated by many black leaders.

LeBron James lives on a high horse in a multi-million dollar house, living close to nothing but white people. In no time at all, he will have white officers in his house to investigate false allegations, if there are any. LeBron James and people like the co-founder of BLM living in million dollar homes they don’t care … I really wish they were held accountable and at least ashamed of what they do to us. country.